Sunday, 19 July 2020

Flying Monkeys 3

I feel so validated 💪🙏

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Bryan Sipho Martin
Bryan Sipho Martin
3 months ago
I need to vent, so please bear with me:

(I've change the names below)

For the last 6 months or so, I've been dealing with, Myra, a mentally abusive coworker. It started with passive aggressive microaggressions, then graduated to her and Brandon talking about me in my presence, as if I wasn't even there. One night while closing (I work in a bar/restaurant), I absentmindedly threw away one of Brandon's rolling papers. He proceeded to yell at me that I enjoy "fucking with people." He couldn't really be more specific. Myra didn't say much, other than to remark that "it had to be said."





About a month later, Brandon came into work (unscheduled) and not even 2 minutes later started talking about how messed up I am; in front of customers, I should add. Giselle, who is friendly with Brandon, told him to let go of whatever he was mad about, which got him even more upset. She relayed the incident to management, and Brandon is now working only 1 day a week.





Since that night,  I've suspected that she made a flying monkey out of Brandon. Who accosted me? Brandon. Who made an ass out of himself at work on his day off? Brandon. Who got in trouble? Brandon. Who was unscathed? Myra. Moreover, Myra has stopped talking about me behind my back in front of me. I suspect it's because she knows that I finally have her number, and that she sees Brandon as a liability.





I'm regretful that I let this mistreatment go on for so long. The thing is, I didn't really have a specific complaint to respond to, which I think was deliberate. I should point out that Myra has a history of passing the buck and deflecting blame, in terms of the business. What hurts is that I worked with Brandon for a year and a half before Myra was hired, and we got along quite well, so this suspicion and paranoia feels way out of left field.





All this being said, I feel much better now that I know what I think that I know. I'm just trusting my gut here. Thanks for listening.
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Deb Chase
Deb Chase
3 months ago
I lived this except with bullying not sexual harassment. I reported it only to find out that higher management who I thought would protect me, not only ignored it they instigated it on many occasions. It is was only after losing my job due to the smear campaign sabotage and lying that the pain got really bad before I realized that they did me a favor.


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turullo pena
turullo pena
3 months ago
The mic is too low.


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To Thineself
To Thineself
3 months ago
Red Table Topic needs to have you back to present this topic. This recently happened to me on a trip and it was sad to watch how people that I’d only met for the first time days before started giving me a weird look and some stopped speaking. Very juvenile behavior! It was very uncomfortable to say the least, as I was visiting a foreign country but I just hung on to my esteem, prayed and ignored. I pitty the fools....
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Valerie R
Valerie R
3 months ago (edited)
My narcissistic ex-husband told everyone that I had been "officially diagnosed" as a paranoid schizophrenic!  It was a lie!  But many "flying monkeys" believed him, including the woman who would become his next wife/victim.  He also hired a lawyer who had been my mom's lawyer when she divorced my father.  So sick!  He subjected me to a Total Smear Campaign!  He even tried to turn my family against me, and almost succeeded!
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Cody Bryson
Cody Bryson
3 months ago
Flying monkeys work for the wicked BWITCH

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s w
s w
3 months ago
Not so Intellient  people like to gossip. And it is a kind of socializing. For some it is the salt in life. Some fun. Whatever. Gossips hold no facts. It is more on emotion.
It is very hard to fight against it. I prefer to change job. It makes no sense to fight for lost battles.
Stupity cannot be cured. So everyone has to learn on its own and mature.
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Diane
Diane
2 months ago
Victim no more👍💙


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Young_Savage 2016
Young_Savage 2016
3 months ago (edited)
Now imagine this happening in terrible environments, bad neighborhoods and such. This could lead to some people losing their lives for real. Not to mention the hacking potential of the modern age


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j j
j j
1 month ago
Why are women so Bias and completely narrow minded.and child like its like there subjecting society to this increasing fashisiom. They only have labeling with names Slandering accusing and attacking. All based on there feelings How offended they are. Sounds like emotional problems.


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Gagan Deep
Gagan Deep
1 month ago
What a funny name...😝😝😝😝😝flying monkeys😝😝😝😝.make them more jump.


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SHARIFAH NAWAL AL-HABSHIE
SHARIFAH NAWAL AL-HABSHIE
3 weeks ago
Agree !!! 👍


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Kitty Kat
Kitty Kat
5 days ago (edited)
Please don't take offense, but I don't like your admonishment of me in that you think I, or others, would get sucked in that way against someone else.  That is something my narc mom would do is accuse me of things I would never do or imply I was stupid enough to do that.  And I do not like others telling me what they think I should do.  It reminds me of my religion which I have long given up..  Thank you.
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Sara
Sara
3 months ago (edited)
What is the flying monkey is my 21 yr old son and 15 yr old daughter. They dont want to come visiit me right now . We are getting divorced and my kids mad I am trying take money away from their dad. We were married 23 yra and was mostly stay home mom.  My aon even said I my actions were evil. My heart broken as I am finaly standing up and i am getting attacked and seen as I am destroying family when he was the one started divorce and now my kids with him. Feel So emotionally confused and heartbroken. I feel I dont deserve much the way I am being portrayed and just want my kids back.
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spring 2019
spring 2019
3 months ago
Super series👍


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Hiraghm
Hiraghm
2 months ago
So "flying monkeys" are not related at all to "edge monkeys". I feel better.


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Black Weirdo
Black Weirdo
3 months ago
Gossip. Social media is gossip on steroids.


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Pearl Seeker
Pearl Seeker
3 months ago
My sister is the narcissist and my parents are her flying monkeys. I am the scapegoat. I can’t tell you how devastating this is. I’m learning slowly. Thank you Dr Ramini.


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Kappo
Kappo
4 days ago
Flying monkeys aka Freemasons


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AlexAnastaso
AlexAnastaso
3 months ago (edited)
Generalities is the tool, the most times generalities are right under a set of certain  conditions
Examples of proverbs in my country
Semi-learning is worse than ignorance! This is true under the condition that you act on the basis of ignorance, but if someone forces you to act in a short period of time, you will act on the basis of half knowledge , for example if you do not know martial arts and force you to fight you will not operate on the basis of the code of martial arts, if you dont know diplomatic language and you are insulted-devalued there is a possibility to start cursing. In reality everyone is half-ignorant
 except the field of their expertise!


 The empty man makes a noise like a empty tin, this is true under the condition that a person has not been abused before a short time of period, abused people for a short period of time having a twisted opinion about the world and they shout on world for this, imagine someone going to such a person and telling him indirectly that she/he is a tin 



Τhe wise man/woman cooks before he is hungry, imagine that someone who stole your property to tells you  this proverb in front of others


People that are complaining for others about their bad place on work are not mature, imagine these wise words to come from the mouth of an abuser


Violation of the Ven diagramm,  you choose the generality that fits your power  (a and b) scenario is different scenario (than a and not b) .
 Most times normal people are the people that supporting narcissists, because they can't think that everything can become a weapon, if you use it in the 'right conditions', even the wise proverbs can become weapons


 (sry for my English)
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Courage Blessings
Courage Blessings
1 week ago
What motivates the "Flying Monkeys" to get involved with someone else's marriage? A responsible adult would stay out of another person's marriage and just hope that the two people work through their problems. Could it be that the "flying monkey" already had a personal issue towards the narc's marriage mate? Could it just be a opportunity for a person to kick another person when they are down by siding with the narc? People's true colors show in a divorce. Mutual friends reveal their jealousy they hid, their envy, their dislike. But when the marriage was good they all smiled in the couple's face. Could flying monkeys just be people getting a kick out of seeing someone's life fall apart? Misery loving company?
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June November
June November
3 months ago
My MIL is a covert narcissist and my husband is a flying monkey. She makes up her own stories and fills up his mind. Smear campaigns about me. And he come home an d gives me silent treatment. And emotional abuse. When I put my foot down and went gray rock with her, he threatened to divorce me.you are right , defending yourself is a waste as they have no rational thinking under the spell of the Nac.
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aspalathos
aspalathos
1 month ago
At work place is just devastating. Others are afraid not to be next victim. I would like to know more tips on how to challenge flying monkeys or at leadt plant a sead of thought to them. Otherwise it seems like it is always narcisists who win.


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The Terrain Wizard
The Terrain Wizard
2 months ago (edited)
Dr. Ramani, why does our species idolize sociopaths, narcissists, and psychopaths? It seems like the idolatry is hard wired into our homo sapien DNA? 

It appears we, as a species, elect people with border line personality disorders  into political office and other positions of leadership, as well as, enjoy watching them on television, movies, and YouTube.

I don’t get it. Is this just part & parcel of the human condition?
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Dwight st. john
Dwight st. john
3 months ago
suggestion: this topic probably comes off better being edited. I won spelling contests in school (half a century ago( and honesty didn't even now what "gaslighting" and "flying monkeys" even was, especially when they're flying behind your back!!!


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RishigamerTV
RishigamerTV
2 months ago (edited)
I have a question Dr. Ramini, why narcissism is not proved or put into a category of mental disorders? 
Just asking coz these things are too hard to prove. In my family  n friends I m being considered rude but my partner is not since he has the charm n funny behavior for which I fell.  And so is everyone else who sees him from outside. 

Later realized what’s he/she really is. 
How his brain n trucks were so sharp that they proving me insane instead of him/her?
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jean giuntini
jean giuntini
3 months ago
This practice is used alot in the political arena, and has destroyed many careers, and people who would have been so beneficial to society.

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Carol Reyes
Carol Reyes
3 months ago
My narcissistic ex husband was also physically abusive. I endured the worst pain conflicted by him. Despite having been convicted of domestic violence he was still able to turn a friend, I introduced him to, around. She was my friend for 6 years before our downhill. The betrayal was was devastating and the darkest time in my life. I self isolated and didn’t talk to anyone because I thought that everyone would board his ship. The sad part...she was a victim of abuse as well and thought she would understand :/ 

It’s been over a year now. I can happily say that I was able to let go and focus on being happy and having healthy friendships and relationships.
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Soulintent eyeons
Soulintent eyeons
1 month ago (edited)
I am real eyezing i have been baiting Narc behaviour to self destruct. Planting seeds. They get diseased, ugly, etc. Or wake up. I did become a flying monkey. I did become a narcissist, i am highly empathic by nature. Seeing my family at large at stake im leaving a trail of cognitive dissonanced folks as i learn and heal my children, their mom has been my antigen for narc immunity, she has taught me well. I love her and ignore, fluf, play dead, sing a random song as an answear but dont own. Manifested a sperate unit house to be close to my daughter. Mind ganes reflected.  any father would for the sake of his children when the narc support is seem8ngly surrounding. This is confusing for the narcs and their monkeys. I have asked forgivness where due. I spoke an invocation many years ago. Time and karmic debt is speeding up. Get your house in order or something will come and take it down. This means be ritchous love and know that suffering is an opportunity for spiritual growth.
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Deborah Boyce
Deborah Boyce
3 months ago
Can a person volunteer to be the flying monkey. I work with a woman, who single handily ruined 3 careers. All these people, one being me are above her level. Is this woman a flying monkey?


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pangorban1
pangorban1
2 months ago
Flying monkeys are also used frequently on the political stage. For example, the media are often willingly recruited into playing flying monkeys for political smear campaigns against a politician or political group that the narcissistic establishment dislikes or feels threatened by. Propaganda is an age-old flying monkey tool.


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Nathan Brady
Nathan Brady
3 months ago
Even after the paternity test came back negative, her flying monkeys were telling there's something wrong with me if I don't keep giving her money for a child that isn't mine.  Please explain how that makes sense.


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DavidMalcolm
DavidMalcolm
3 months ago
I just wrote a huge comment hat I realized really didn't get to the point of what I was asking. But do narcissists like to be another narcissists' flying monkey? At one point I was studying to be a minister in the United Church of Canada, and I noticed that when one narcissist would target someone (often me) other people who skewed narcissistic would often pile on. As if they were able to get narcissistic supply by demeaning someone who was being targeted by another narcissist?
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Helena GG
Helena GG
1 month ago (edited)
it's worst when the narcissist recruits a "licensed therapist" as their flying monkey and takes the victim to them for the sole purpose of having harder proof that the victim is crazy. After all, even the "therapist" or the "psychologist" confirmed that. But just as soon as they realize the psychologist is not taking their side, they stop recommending them and immediately take you to someone who takes their side and spends the whole therapy session sympathizing with their sob story and scolding you for being such an unappreciative and difficult person that's "blinded to all the kindness and spirituality in the world." Then the narcissist, with teary eyes, goes on telling everybody the sob story that "they are sacrificing everything for you, just so that you would finally see their kindness and succeed in life. but they have even taken you to the psychologist and it doesn't work, but anyway, just out of love, the narcissist never stops giving because they love you soooo much." and this brings the flying monkies to this outrage of immediately jumping and defending the narcissist and advising them that they should stop spoiling you with so much kindness that you don't deserve and they feel very entitled to be very rude and condescending to you the next time they see you. Yes, my mother is such a great "loving caring selfless parent" who has always physically, verbally, and psychologically abused and neglected me for as young an age as I can remember. But of course, nobody has seen that since all of that has been behind closed doors. All the rage, all the physical violence, hours of daily yelling, and name-calling, chasing me in the house, pulling my hair, enabling my father for as well abusing me, never giving me any emotional counseling, punishing me for getting complimented by others. No one even believes that such a sweet, considerate, and socially refined woman could have been so mean-spirited and nasty to her own daughter behind closed doors. People should learn that real victims usually feel so much guilt, shame, and pain about the experience of abuse that they are usually the least likely side of a conflict to go out and tell refined sob-stories to everyone. Most importantly, if a sob-story is always very refined in a way that paints the teller as a saint and the other party as a total villain and makes any random person get under the spell of the story, this is a telltale sign of a narcissist doing the smear campaign because, first, in no conflict, one party can be absolutely perfect and innocent. Even if it was not their fault at all, real usually have lots of problems revisiting the story and being self-critical in terms of what they themselves did which made the matter go wrong, and usually communicate that self-doubt and confusion to the listener, too, in a way that the listener would feel like they are consulted for advice and feedback on the behavior the role of the narrator. Also, since these experiences of conflict usually feel very personal to the real victims, the real victims are the least likely to have a refined elevator pitch of the story to any random person they encounter and most likely to only have deep conversations about the topic, in private, with only very few people they trust and it is always in the form of communicating the confusion and helplessness they feel in the situation and asking for feedback and advice, rather than a flawless highly refined and framed 30 second, 5 minute, or 1-hour pitch of how aweful a person the other party is. To be specific, even if this is absolutely the other party who is abusing the victim, and the victim has a flawlessly perfect reaction and tolerance to that abuse, the real victim still feels a lack of confidence and shame for taking that abuse, and that's why it is so difficult for the real victims to go out and give those flawless, very convincing, and perfected pitches of how awful the other party is, despite the fact they are themselves saintly kind to them, to any random person they encounter.
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Teresa Dignam
Teresa Dignam
2 months ago
My God watching All these videos describes Trump Completely!  And his sycophants Are His Flying Monkeys!


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YournotrealYoursoreal / //
YournotrealYoursoreal / //
3 months ago (edited)
On Occasion if the narcissist tries to smear the victim empath it may not go over as such especially if the victim and there friends had good consistent relations generally speaking. Can you imagine hearing someone put down someone that you had always had a good time with ? It wouldn't sound right. Especially if they never saw that side of you that the narcissist is trying to portray. J.S. Others may believe the Narcissist or call B.S if they know the victim generally speaking. Because true vibrations don't lie. Plus the flying monkeys may also realize the pattern that the narcissist has for this type of behavior.  :)
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Caroline Lala
Caroline Lala
1 month ago
They flip the script on you and they try to make it look like you're the bad guy. Flying monkeys are major problems and the only advice I've heard all over the internet is just to go away from them all. I hate defeat but that always seems to be the answer from every single therapist/psychologist/target/narcissist teacher on Youtube.  They sure love to gossip, the narcissist drops little bombs, they say subtle things, that put in doubt and water it over time and get those FM's the BS and spread it all over the place. Women are so about this, they should be ashamed at being disgusting human beings going along to be liked, that's pathetic but most often it's something like their being jealous of you and then finding things to add on to the BS. I've had some women come back 10 years later to apologize to me. It was a big career move for me when I was looking for a mentor and she got in before I did and blew it. Total jerk.
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Tom Ripley
Tom Ripley
1 week ago (edited)
I don't think I'm susceptible to becoming a flying monkey. Social media's sea of pretend victims make you look for the facts behind the narrative. Watching someone's reaction when you say: "That's terrible IF it happened" is a good indication you need to dig deeper. You can tell these liars feel very disconcerted if they don't swallow their tale of woe hook, line and sinker from the get-go.
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Enoch Brown
Enoch Brown
1 month ago (edited)
Unfortunately, what you are saying is absolutely correct.  I'm just curious, however.  I looked up the prevalence of narcissism and what I found online is that it is about 0.5%.  Is that in anyway accurate?  The reason I'm asking is because if only 1 in 200 people have this personality disorder, then the odds are that anyone being a victim of a narcissist is small although not infinitestimal.  Can anyone answer this?
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Bernadette B
Bernadette B
2 months ago
Flying psycho twisted monkeys


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Cody Bryson
Cody Bryson
3 months ago
I hear that the words NARCISSISTIC or NARCISSISTS CAN NOT BE USED IN COURT BECAUSE PEOPLE THAT WORK FOR THE SYSTEMS ARE THE BIGGEST COVERT NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE IN THE WORLD


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Stephanie Bailey
Stephanie Bailey
3 weeks ago
I worked for raymond lamonica LSU LAW PROFESSOR and government officials for over twenty plus years until I filed a complaint against them RAPEING CHILDREN MOLESTING CHILDREN child abuse child TRAFFICKING.  They are protected like the CHURCHES who members preachers who also raped molested children. In Louisiana baton ROUGE they get PATTED ON THE BACK FOR THESE HARD CORE CRIMINAL CRIMES.
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Caroline Lala
Caroline Lala
1 month ago
They harness other people and turn them against you, they don't care who they hurt.  They are in constant pursuit of validation as the coolest, most popular, etc. They try to burn your sources of support and go after your friendships and break groups of people by dropping toxic seeds and watering them. They're very vindictive, they find others who would or could be jealous, like hating on people, and want to join in because they want to be liked by the narcissist and please them, it's a sick form of validation by the Flying Monkey.
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Katarzyna Biernacka
Katarzyna Biernacka
3 months ago
I wonder how are the people manipulated into being such flying monkeys supposed to recognise the manipulation, find out who is the manipulator and who is the victim of this manipulation?


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Alex Litoshik
Alex Litoshik
1 month ago
Look like only woman get abused by narcissist is it true


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OkayAmit
OkayAmit
3 months ago (edited)
I dated my best friends best friend seems like a good guy but no he turned out to be a narcissist and then I started to look into his patterns and past and got to know some really shady stuff and when I asked my friends why tried to gaslight me saying “you see the reality you want to see” and I could not handle this but now I know what it is and I’m feeling sorry for them they always say “ ahh that’s just X he’s a dick “ and the fact that he is a dick is the only excuse for his behavior even when he’s being horribly to them
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Karma Gal
Karma Gal
3 months ago
It’s brutal and ugly. My Ex-In Laws are the original Narcissists. My ex-husband grew up in a narcissistic Boot Camp. It was not too far of the mark, 
But it still hurts. You want to believe that your relationships have matured after 38 total years as part of a family. After you have their sons, grandsons, nephews, etc. But, if their son or daughter is the one who commits adultery, lies, manipulates, torments and discards you, they will stand in line to be Monkey #1! After all, as my father-in-Law has been known to say, “Blood is thicker than water”. They are NOT happy people and they do NOT like anyone who has the capacity to be. They got what they wanted from the beginning...their son and I are divorced and he is at their beckon call.
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Che Che
Che Che
2 months ago (edited)
People always believe divorce is both parties fault. So if you tell them about narcissism! They mad at you blame your ex! Less empathize you, even to the point take sides! Critical to me not appreciate the Narc, You can educate people but will be surprised by how many if they willing to listen!


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venetia
venetia
3 months ago
So this is what i think flying monkeys are...they're used by the narcs to attack the victims.. often they're so naive that they become victims themselves, usually when the narcs discard them. When we recognise narcs and the flying monkeys, we should anticipate their moves, steel ourselves for the smear campaign that will follow, and try not to engage in useless clarifications. Never become flying monkeys ourselves. Finally, do not let them affect our sanity.. form new friendships, healthy ones.
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Brittney Hall
Brittney Hall
3 months ago
Two flying monkeys disliked this video


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Metonymy1979
Metonymy1979
3 months ago
This explains Trump

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Mike
Mike
3 months ago (edited)
You're correct narcissist can't or won't self reflect ! They only have one way of thinking and they are all about drama & chaos . Unfortunately if I never met the narc or the flying monkeys too begin with my life would not have been so challenging . Too bad the narcissist aren't real victims if they got put through all the hell we gotten put through they might understand what we've been through and wouldn't instigated all the chaos & drama they started to begin with .
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mmanda515
mmanda515
3 months ago
What's scary, is just how many can be convinced of things....  they will change their relationship with, accuse, even go after someone, ALL... based on mere words alone.  ??  Have been a victim who has been attacked & had flying monkeys coming after, etc...   could never BE recruited as one tho.   So, while I can get how there could be one or two here or there, scares me to think of humanity.... where SO many can be so easily persuaded to do such wrong things.  =/
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Sam Black
Sam Black
3 months ago
Flying monkeys may also be wannabe abusers but lack the intestinal fortitude to do it themselves, therefore they like to be attached to abusers' coat-tails and experience the thrill of seeing someone get destroyed by the narcissist.  All abusers are essentially weak, but FMs are even weaker.  Weak personalities generally can be vicious and nasty, they see aggression as strength.  Their victims are seen as a threat to their perception of their dominance.
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Echoes in the Valley
Echoes in the Valley
1 month ago
I hate gossip won't involve myself


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Nancy Elizabeth Suver
Nancy Elizabeth Suver
3 months ago
I was not only horribly abused and cheated on over and over by my malignant npd alcoholic ex husband 
He made it double the abuse by manipulating and brainwashing others including my children to enlist as his flying monkeys in his cult and believe 
his pathological lies and projected guilt of what he did onto me while busy on his smear campaign of my reputation
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BC 12
BC 12
3 months ago (edited)
The work environment is a special place. Basically, not a place you can be right or correct in. So it’s a fit in with the herd and butt kissing world. You can survive it if you just fake it and be phony there and then be real when knock off for the day. I see easy recruits as cowardly in character and don’t handle their own problems well. So it makes sense that they would buy easily into other people’s dramatics.
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DMAXHK
DMAXHK
2 months ago
Great video as always Doc. I only have one issue or question. You talk about not being a flying monkey and you encourage the person to fact check or go. To the other person to find out the truth. The issue I have here is I have cultivated new friendships where I have been honest about mistreatment of a certain narc. If this new friend were to go out and do their own homework etc would they not easily be lied to and fooled into believing again I am the crazy one? I know it sounds very narcissistic of me to think that but this new person has been a source of support, so while I am being honest about everything that happened I worry they (and other friends) could fall victim to the campaign. I know I can't control everything but I wouldn't encourage them to speak to the narc knowing how they operate. Hope that makes sense. Thanks for all your videos!
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Stephanya Lisova
Stephanya Lisova
3 months ago
Flying Monkeys don't jump in to defend the Poor Me Narcissist just because they are kind compassionate people who want to help someone being wronged. 

They get involved strictly for personal gain. Its an opportunity to vent. These people use their pent up repressed anger and rage to PROJECT on and punish an identified target.   Open season, bring your shot gun.  

Flying Monkeys get involved for secondary gain.  Bonus and a payoff if you can injure the Target and get acknowlement AND reward by becoming the Narcissists " HERO ". Flying Monkeys see an opportunity to vent their own feelings of repressed agression. Venting their agression out on behalf of someone else makes their assault "justifiable" and "righteous". This is why it's called "Abuse by Proxy"
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Krys R
Krys R
3 months ago
My family doesn't talk to be anymore because my mom's ego is fragile. This year on my birthday my cousin asked me "have you called anyone lately?" With 'anyone' meaning my parents. My cousin and I work together, and I'm not gonna lie, it was especially harsh with the pandemic going on, and having that knife dug in a little deeper because no one from my family (including my cousin) wished me a happy birthday. I don't think she realized that she was a flying monkey that day (she is close to my parents and they were likely taking about how sad they are that I'm not in their life, despite the fact that they very actively kicked me out of the family, and so she thinks she's trying to help, but doesn't realize that to me it's like asking a victim if they've talked to their bully lately)
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Marisa Rubalcava
Marisa Rubalcava
3 months ago
So accurate. They will stop at nothing to make sure no one else looks better than them. Especially their FM. I’m not sure what’s worse, them trying to hurt you or manipulating their FM to think your relationship is disrespectful to the narcissist or another FM. They go to great lengths to keep their FMs in check

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Bezejmenný Lotr
Bezejmenný Lotr
3 months ago (edited)
I went through this incredible shit. Worst thing ever for me. It is a friend of my ex girlfriend. This flying monkey now have a 2 year old son with her husband and now they have no or only little income due to corona, because her husband (narcissist also) works in a gym as a kettlebell instructor, which is now closed due to corona and now he is "begging" on facebook for support (money) for their gym :D
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حسن نور
حسن نور
2 months ago
Narcissism as an unconscious behavior pattern is not even in the control of a narcissist. Why so much hate for someone who has behavioral disorder such as Narcism.


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Katie Maxwell
Katie Maxwell
3 months ago (edited)
I am an adult child of a Narcissistic mother. She is a foster parent and adoptive mother. She has been targeting one of the kids and turning the other kids into flying monkeys against the child. I want to help the children. I reported against my own mother because I could not speak out in the moment. Nothing came of the report. She got away with it again. I saw what is going on with the kids, but I couldn't get myself to tell my mother to stop so I feel so ashamed for not speaking up more. I have distance myself and am no longer speaking with my mother. How can I help the children if I am no longer in their lives?
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Nunya Bidness
Nunya Bidness
3 months ago
The white which is actually a bad witch too.  Its mass brainwashing, just like our educational system. There are no good witches, there is no good magic. Satan is the grandaddy narc and has been brainwashing humanity since our CREATION that happened 6,000 years ago.  There is no truth in this life except for The Bible. Cognitive dissonance Is the norm and you can expect a war to go against the zombies.
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Jennifer Anand
Jennifer Anand
3 months ago
wow ok Dr Ramani this spoke to me, for me this was the best video yet, u are truly during Gods work. To ur friend who experienced "flying monkeys" at work. I have learned from therapy that I was conditioned for abuse, so I attracted abusive environments whether that be at work and or personal relationships. Please tell ur friend its not in her head. I wish I could just give Dr. Ramani a hug n tell her THANK YOU
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caramelbilquees
caramelbilquees
2 months ago (edited)
This is exactly what happened there was an old man he kept on wanting me to be around him and his friend. I said no he spread around I had mental problems...I told people hes a horrible ugly man and he keeps asking me for sex I dont want to be near him...then what happens I get strange men follow and say to me your weird your mental your a stalker  ...do you want to have sex??? I was like what if I'm weird why are you asking me? You are the one talking to me?? I'm not ashamed to put this because I am nothing like that and much younger and prettier have a boyfriend and they ALWAYS will come to me that's the ironic part they stalk me

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