Which type of person you would like to see; happy or sad? Some people are tuned to speak always negative. Such people have unguided thoughts. Imagine when your car goes out of control. Same are these people. They are blamer, complainer. They wake you up. Opposition makes you strong.
Tu Bacha Bacha Ker Na Rukh Isse, Tera Aeena Hai Wo Aeena; K Shikasta Ho To Azeez Tur Hai Nigaah-e-Aeena Saaz Main
Here aeena means Heart. Different poets have been symbolising heart with aeena (mirror) A mirror is worthy till its not cracked, broken, a broken mirror has no value. Iqbal says But dont worry about your heart, let it quiver for Allah....as heart is a mirror that becomes more valuable when it cries, feels pain, quivers, palipitates and is broken for divine love. A crying broken heart of Allah's lover becomes more valuable and loveable in the eye of Allah (nigah-e-aeena saz....aeena banane wale ki nazar....one who created that mirror(heart) means Allah-The creater).
Controlled people are grateful. They find light in the dark. For guided thoughts, you have to become grateful (no complains, no rumors spreader), don't be rumormonger, gossip monger.
Controlled people are grateful. They find light in the dark. For guided thoughts, you have to become grateful (no complains, no rumors spreader), don't be rumormonger, gossip monger.
No negative chat (chat thoughts chat), no meaningless talk. Good question good answer.
If someone is stealing, he is like my son. Funeral participation for a stubborn person. Simple clothes for marriage ceremony. Allah is same way pleased as you are pleased of Him. Same is for luck. Worry comes from thoughts, not from circumstances. Who knows, has clarity, speaks straight forward.
We have to work on our abilities to make the space and attract the market. One pious person can elevate the faith level of the whole area and give it great name.
Avoid backbiting (complaining), unnecessary talks and be grateful (list the items), be cooperative, practice meditation (relax without interruption), connect with your inner. Tell to self, 'I am owner of my thoughts'. Don't let it auto-pilot.
Connect yourself with energy people. Spend time with them. We transmit and receive energy at the same time.
One person changes the whole environment, induce excitement or brings stillness in the gathering. Our face reflects much, good mood or vice versa.
Care is a powerful tool to live life. Share your deficiencies with Allah SWT. People like happy and energy people. Earn happiness through sharing happiness. Develop dreams. Value the valuable things. Confused people waste time.
What you transmit, comes back to you. It's like echo. Filter your friendship through the information you receive. Some people portray as master of something (match, bad news, centered in their own business). Seek newness, new venues to think upon. Reading and observation helps. Try new experiments. Go and see new people, new opportunities. Be body language, eyes movement observer.
Increase your information level. Repetition of one single topic turns boring in a while. Increase your friend's circle. Learn to communicate; new issues, new skills.
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Below you'll find 9 ways to make your life more meaningful.
1. Make Your Life More Meaningful By Having a Purpose. ...
2. Reframe How You See Your Job/Occupation. ...
3. Choose Your Friends Wisely. ...
4. Find a Balance Between Seeking Happiness and Meaning.
5. Choose Integrity. ...
6. Write Your Life's Story. ...
7. Express Yourself. ...
8. Make a Difference In Small Ways.
9. Think of Your Legacy
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We are not created to die.
Apne Mann Mein Doob Kar Pa Ja Suragh-E-Zindagi
Tu Agar Mera Nahin Banta Na Bann, Apna To Bann
Delve into your soul and there seek our life’s buried tracks; Will you not be mine? then be not mine, be your own right!
Khudi Ka Sirr-e-Nihan La Ilaha Illallah
Khudi Hai Taeg, Fasan La Ilaha Illallah
The secret of the self is hid, In words "No god but He alone." The self is just a dull-edged sword, "No god but He," the grinding stone.
Andaz e Fikr, attitude, mental attitude make personality. Holy Pophet's journey to Ta'if was hard but did not prove entirely fruitless. He was hurt to bleed. He (the most optimist) prayed for the people of Taif.
Our eyes are windows, sometimes try to look through other people's eyes. Rose flower is different for three different people. It's different for an animal.
Self awakening, self actualization, self esteem are skills to learn. Apply new meanings to your life, to your circumstances, to your opportunities.
People sacrificed for us, let's turn it around. Greatness is contagious. You transmit and receive. Be positive, be attractive, be productive, be energetic.
Be manager of 60,000 thoughts per day. The way to control and filter is to mind the source and resource.
Thoughts come from feelings and realizations. Cagey, Cautious, Chary, Cynical, Doubtful, Doubting, Dubious, Fearful, Jealous, Leery, Mistrustful, Skeptical, Suspicious, Uneasy, Wary, Been Hit Before; will have negative thoughts.
A person of gratitude, honor, thankfulness, indifference, thanklessness, gratefulness, appreciation, gratefulness, acknowledgment, response, sense of obligation and sense of indebtedness will have positive thoughts.
These are two windows for thoughts. We cannot control thoughts, we can control our attitude.
Some people even forget how to laugh. Start practicing feeling great.
List all those sources which make you feel great. When I speak to people like you I feel better. When I help someone I feel better. Cooperate, counsel, respect, honor, seeing mentors, acknowledgement, nature, good lecture, travel, phone fasting, camping. Sense yourself inner alone, meditate. Enjoy water, tea. Parents, positive relatives. Teaching kids, unexpectedly do some help. Bliss (joy in) yourself.
Wow! when time will come, I will die, I will be very happy at that time. I am spending everyday like my last day and more productive way. I completed my assignment. I have performed the best. But if I am sitting idle then there will be a list of regrets.
Do those things which make you happy. Manage the challenges, tough times. Swing back to your bright place from dark area as soon as possible.
Find your strength; may be book reading. Find your positive escape. Graveyard can teach a lot. Fearless place.
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Follow my six steps to control your emotions and regain rationality in any challenging situation:
1. Don't react right away. Reacting immediately to emotional triggers can be an immense mistake. ...
2. Ask for divine guidance. ...
3. Find a healthy outlet. ...
4. See the bigger picture. ...
5. Replace your thoughts. ...
6. Forgive your emotional triggers.
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Holding feelings is managing life. Best outcome, good result.
Act as your favorite role model.
3 Steps to “Act as If” (and Get What You Want!)
1. Find the emotional root of your desire.
2. Be aware of the root emotion in all areas of your life.
3. Watch your reactivity
4 Ways To Really Act As If
1. Talk about it as if it’s happening
2. It’s not about seeing it, it’s about feeling it
3. Play prince, no limits
4. An "it’s happening" corner/totem
Spirituality has power; you think, you speak, you get.
All universe is connected through a system. You are center of universe. You think, you feel and universe will follow you. Let me say, universe is your best friend. As you feel, it responds accordingly. You transmit and you receive echo back.
Practice to value other people, make them feel great. You can find such people, they unload your problem. They make you feel light of burden.
Deliverance, speech, oration increases your wisdom.
Expectation is the root of all heartache, is the thief of joy, is the root of suffering, is mother of frustration, is the mother of disappointment. Universe (Allah SWT) will pay you back.
Do good and forget about it.
Be discreet (close-mouthed) with your kindness.
Al-Baqara (The Cow) 2:264
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ لاَ تُبْطِلُواْ صَدَقَاتِكُم بِالْمَنِّ وَالأذَى كَالَّذِي يُنفِقُ مَالَهُ رِئَاء النَّاسِ وَلاَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَمَثَلُهُ كَمَثَلِ صَفْوَانٍ عَلَيْهِ تُرَابٌ فَأَصَابَهُ وَابِلٌ فَتَرَكَهُ صَلْدًا لاَّ يَقْدِرُونَ عَلَى شَيْءٍ مِّمَّا كَسَبُواْ وَاللّهُ لاَ يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْكَافِرِينَ
O you who have attained to faith! Do not deprive your charitable deeds of all worth by stressing your own benevolence and hurting [the feelings of the needy], as does he who spends his wealth only to be seen and praised by men, and believes not in God and the Last Day: for his parable is that of a smooth rock with [a little] earth upon it - and then a rainstorm smites it and leaves it hard and bare. Such as these shall have no gain whatever from all their [good] works: for God does not guide people who refuse to acknowledge the truth.
6 Benefits of Practicing Kindness
Here are six science-backed benefits of practicing kindness:
1. Increases happiness
2. Boosts energy
3. Reduces anxiety and depression
4. Lowers blood pressure
5. Reduces pain
6. Promotes longevity
Almost any type of act of kindness boost happiness, especially act of kindness for deprived people gives enormous happiness. Learn sacrifice, learn to donate.
Practice capacity building. Miser is gathering material from others, for others.
Learn to be a giver and not a taker. Develop victor mentality, not victim mentality. Don’t allow discouragements or other setbacks to make you weak. Don't let people tell you that your dreams are never going to come to pass, you’re never going to be happy. Be bold, remind yourself the importance of blossoming moments are pre-requisite to perform better.
Pray for your enemies, pray for bad people. This is paradigm (Philosophy) shift.
Frequent rewards can improve motivation, performance at work.
Reward is based on performance.
Play a legendary role as writer, as teacher, as mentor, as coach, as reformer, as performer, as contributor.
70 Ways to Make Others Feel Special
Be the person that makes others feel special. Be known for your kindness and grace.
There is someone in my life that has an extraordinary talent for making people feel special. I would call him out by name, but he’s a fairly private person, so we’ll just call him “E.”
It’s not that E makes people feel that they are somehow greater than others. He recognizes what’s special about everyone he encounters, and through his attention, kindness, and generosity, brings out the best in them.
He doesn’t do this through grand gestures, and not with expectations of receiving anything specific in return.
He does it because he enjoys making people feel good, and because he sees the good in them, he knows that they deserve it.
In a world where it’s easy to focus on ourselves; our goals, our desires, and our plans; there’s something inspiring and, well, downright special about anyone who makes it a priority to truly see and acknowledge the people around them.
I haven’t always done this well. Sometimes I’ve been too self-involved to shift my focus outside myself.
But with help from some special people who’ve seen the best in me, I now know that every day; no, every moment, I have a new opportunity to do the same for someone else. And you do too.
How do you make someone feel special?
Pay Attention
1. Stop what you’re doing and look directly into their eyes when they’re talking.
2. Make a note of their likes and preferences so you can recommend joint activities you know they’ll enjoy.
3. Recognize when they’re feeling down on themselves and say, “I think you’re awesome, and I hope you know it!”
4. Compliment them on their appearance, especially if it’s something others might not recognize (like a small weight loss).
5. Praise them for a job well done especially if it’s a tiny victory that others might not think to acknowledge.
6. Let them know what you find interesting, rare, or admirable about them.
7. Take an interest in their hobbies and passions, and give them a chance to light up in sharing why they enjoy them.
8. Compliment them on their skills as a parent or their thoughtfulness as a son, daughter, brother, or sister.
9. Start a conversation with, “It’s really amazing how you…”
See Potential
11. Tell them you believe they can achieve their dream and why.
12. If they don’t have a clear dream, recognize and acknowledge their skills and talents.
13. Ask them questions to help them uncover how they can leverage their strengths to make a difference in the world.
14. Encourage them to go for something they want but are scared to pursue.
15. Comfort them after a failure or misstep and let them know it isn’t representative of who they are or what they’re capable of.
16. Ask them to teach you how to do something to reinforce that this is something they excel at.
17. Offer to teach them something you know they’ve wanted to try, and let them know why you think they’d be good at this.
18. Give them something to help them get started on their dream like a journal for an aspiring writer, or a design book for someone interested in fashion.
19. Tell them you want to be the first one to buy their product or service when they inevitably start making a living off their passion.
20. Give them a hand-made card and write inside what you see in them.
Give Generously
21. Give your time to listen, to support, or to just enjoy each other’s company.
22. Give them a job referral and say, “You’re the first person I thought of when I saw this, no one could do this job as well as you!”
23. Give an introduction to someone they’d enjoy knowing and introduce them with a compliment (i.e.: This is my good friend Ali, who’s a fantastic chef and one of the funniest people I know).
24. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Instead of assuming they’ve done something thoughtful or insensitive, remember their goodness, and let them know.
25. Give them your approval; nod your head when they’re talking and commend their thoughts and ideas.
26. Give them space to work through thoughts and ideas out loud, even if you’re tempted to bring the conversation back to yourself.
27. Give them credit for something they were right about.
28. Give them the opportunity to shine in front of others when you’re tempted to dominate the conversation.
29. Give compassion when you’re tempted to judge, and let them know what you admire about the challenges they’ve overcome.
30. Give them your honest opinion and say, “I value you too much to tell you anything but the truth.”
Be Affectionate
31. Give them a hug when they’re feeling down, and hold it just a little longer than usual.
32. Give them a playful nudge when joking around to show you’re tight like that.
33. Literally pat them on the back when offering praise.
34. Squeeze their hand when they’re anxious.
35. Cuddle up to you partner instead of maintaining distance on the couch.
36. Offer to give a massage to someone you know would be comfortable receiving it.
37. Actually kiss someone on the cheek instead of giving an air kiss.
38. Hold hands with your partner when walking outside (or, if you have friends who enjoy holding hands, go for it!)
39. Sit comfortably close together to show you’re not avoiding physical connection at all costs.
30. If you know they don’t enjoy too much affection, give them a handshake when greeting them to show you understand and respect their preferences.
Share Yourself
42. Share your feelings with them and let them know you value their guidance and support.
43. Share your honest opinions instead of censoring yourself to show them you’re comfortable enough to be authentic with them.
44. Share your dreams with them and let them know you appreciate their advice and encouragement.
45. Share your resources with them especially if they’re scarce to show they’re worth the sacrifice.
46. Share something you cooked for them to show them they’re worth the effort.
47. Share your spirituality with them, and invite them to join you in practicing yoga or going to church.
48. Share a secret with them to show them your trust.
49. Share something that will become an inside joke between just the two of you.
50. Share something you value with them to show them you value them more.
Do Together
51. Invite them to join you in doing something important, like picking out something for your partner’s birthday.
52. Ask if you can help with something important they’re planning to do.
53. Plan a surprise event for them, either to celebrate a tiny victory or just because you care.
54. Invite them to something that will be a bonding experience, like a spa day or a sporting event.
55. Buy an extra ticket to something you know they’d enjoy, and offer it to them.
56. Ask them to join you in doing something regularly, like joining a bowling league, and let them know why it would be way more fun with them there.
57. Include them in a group event to show you consider them part of the gang.
58. Ask for their input in planning a group event to let them know you value their thoughts and ideas.
59. Devote a weekend day or night (or both) to spending time together instead of squeezing them in for a quick lunch.
60. When you’ve been busy, say, “I haven’t had much time lately, but I miss you! When can we get together and catch up?”
Be Together
Be Together
61. Invite them to sit around with you, just to relax and enjoy each other’s company.
62. Ask them if they’d like to enjoy the outdoors with you, whether that means lying in the beach in the summer, or drinking hot chocolate near a snow-covered window in the winter.
63. Ask them if they want company when they feel drained after a long week, to show you don’t need a formal plan to be there for and with them.
64. Offer to come over, while they’re home, so you can be an extra set of eyes to watch their kids.
65. Sit in comfortable silence instead of needing to fill the air to show you’re comfortable enough to do this.
66. Offer to stay with them when they’re sick, just in case they need anything.
67. Invite them to join you in a technology free day—one without any distractions from simply being, together.
68. Ask them to share their favorite way to relax on a day off, and then ask if they want to do this together.
69. Invite them to join you in meditating. (If you don’t meditate, invite them to try it with you, at home or in a group environment.)
70.
I left the last one intentionally blank for you to fill in. What do you do to make others feel special, and what makes you feel special when others do it for you?
Make others waiter, you will become waiter. Make others king, you will become king. What you give, same will come back.
The act of giving makes a nice gift, if done correctly.
Al-Hujurat (The Dwellings) 49:12
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
O you who have attained to faith! Avoid most guesswork [about one another] for, behold, some of [such] guesswork is [in itself] a sin; and do not spy upon one another, and neither allow yourselves to speak ill of one another behind your backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, you would loathe it! And be conscious of God. Verily, God is an acceptor of repentance, a dispenser of grace!
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