Waiting With Patience and Endurance

Waiting Well

When you think of the word "wait," what comes to your mind? Perhaps it's long lines at the grocery checkout, or traffic that's backed up for miles, or that moment when you were sitting in a doctor's office with a room full of other people, hoping that at any second a nurse was going to call your name. You might be waiting for a child to get back on course, waiting to get a good break, waiting for your career to start. We all go through waiting processes that can be very difficult.

This wait is not made to be hard on us? It helps to develop our character. Patience is an inner strength that we all need to learn. We need to develop our patience, knowing that at the right time we are going to get what we need.

We need to get prepared for what is coming in our life. That's what I call "waiting well." The farmer waits with great expectation, looking for the rain, watching for sprouts, believing for a harvest, even when he doesn't see anything happening. He knows it's just a matter of time and the soil will yield a harvest if he patiently endures the wait.

We have to develop the patience that waits with great expectation. When it's taking longer than we thought, don't grow weary and lose your enthusiasm.

What are you waiting for? Be patient and get prepared. It is more interesting what is being developed in you while you wait than what you're waiting for. Enjoy where you are right now. Wait well, knowing that patience and endurance will bring success in your life.

How Success is Like a Chinese Bamboo Tree

I know it sounds a little out there but hear me out on this one.  This is such a great parable.  I don’t know if you’ve heard this story about the Chinese Bamboo Tree before now but this is one of those lessons that really sticks with you.  The Chinese Bamboo Tree teaches us success lessons on patience, faith, perseverance, growth and development and most surprising of all … human potential!

The Story of The Chinese Bamboo Tree

Like any plant, growth of the Chinese Bamboo Tree requires nurturing; water, fertile soil, sunshine. In its first year, we see no visible signs of activity. In the second year, again, no growth above the soil. The third, the fourth, still nothing. Our patience is tested and we begin to wonder if our efforts (caring, water, etc.) will ever be rewarded.

And finally in the fifth year; behold, a miracle! We experience growth. And what growth it is! The Chinese Bamboo Tree grows 80 feet in just six weeks!

But let’s be serious, does the Chinese Bamboo Tree really grow 80 feet in six weeks? Did the Chinese Bamboo Tree lie dormant for four years only to grow exponentially in the fifth? Or, was the little tree growing underground, developing a root system strong enough to support its potential for outward growth in the fifth year and beyond? The answer is, of course, obvious. Had the tree not developed a strong unseen foundation it could not have sustained its life as it grew. The same principle is true for people. People, who patiently toil (work) towards worthwhile dreams and goals, building strong character while overcoming adversity and challenge, grow the strong internal foundation to handle success, while get-rich-quickers and lottery winners usually are unable to sustain unearned sudden wealth.

Had the Chinese Bamboo Tree farmer dug up his little seed every year to see if it was growing, he would have stunted the Chinese Bamboo tree’s growth as surely as a caterpillar is doomed to a life on the ground if it is freed from its struggle inside a cocoon prematurely. The struggle in the cocoon is what gives the future butterfly the wing power to fly, just as tension against muscles as we exercise strengthen our muscles, while muscles left alone will soon atrophy (weaken).

The Story of The Human Potential Tree (aka You)

The Chinese Bamboo Tree is a perfect parable to our own experience with personal growth and change (whether we are working on ourselves or coaching others). It is never easy. It’s slow to show any progress. It’s frustrating and unrewarding at times. But it is so worth it …. especially if we can be patient and persistent.

This is the critical variable in attaining new skills, in developing ourselves and others. It is our ability to stay persistent even when we are unable to see any growth on the surface …. just like the Chinese Bamboo Tree.

The Challenge We Learn from the Chinese Bamboo Tree

Can we stay focused and continue to believe in what we are doing even when we don’t see immediate results? In a culture driven by instant gratification, this is our biggest challenge.

We often tell each other (and our children), remember to “Keep trying! and NEVER give up!” The change may be slow, even invisible at times but suddenly, as in the case of the Chinese Bamboo Tree, we will surprise ourselves.

Keep your faith in this important work.

We live in a quick-fix society. We get frustrated if we have to wait more than 2 minutes for service or a stop light to change. We want instant solutions to every complex problem and every fractured relationship. In short, we want it all now! Maybe its time to reflect on an old, old poem that is as true today as it was when he wrote it over 100 years ago:

“The heights by great men reached and kept

Were not attained by sudden flight,

But they, while their companions slept,

Toiled ever upward through the night.”

Final Lesson From The Chinese Bamboo Tree

Yet, all of this requires one thing, faith. The growers of the Chinese Bamboo Tree have faith that if they keep watering and fertilizing the ground, the tree will break through. Well, you must have the same kind of faith in your bamboo tree, whether it is to run a successful business, win a big prize, raise well-adjusted children or what have you. You must have faith that if you keep making the calls, honing your craft, reading to your children, reaching out to your spouse or asking for donations, that you too will see rapid growth in the future.

This is the hard part for most of us. We get so excited about the idea that’s been planted inside of us that we simply can’t wait for it to blossom. Therefore, within days or weeks of the initial planting, we become discouraged and begin to second guess ourselves, or worse, quit.

Sometimes, in our doubt, we dig up our seed and plant it elsewhere, in hopes that it will quickly rise in more fertile ground. We see this very often in people who change jobs every year or so. We also see it in people who change organizations and even spouses in the pursuit of greener pastures. More often than not, these people are greatly disappointed when their Chinese bamboo tree doesn’t grow any faster in the new location.

Other times, people will water the ground for a time but then, quickly become discouraged. They start to wonder if it’s worth all of the effort. This is particularly true when they see their neighbors having success with other trees. They start to think, “What am I doing trying to grow a Chinese bamboo tree? If I had planted a lemon tree, I’d have a few lemons by now.” These are the people who return to their old jobs and their old ways. They walk away from their dream in exchange for a “sure thing.”

Sadly, what they fail to realize is that pursuing your dream is a sure thing if you just don’t give up. So long as you keep watering and fertilizing your dream, it will come to fruition, just like the Chinese Bamboo Tree. It may take weeks. It may take months. It may even take years, but eventually, the roots will take hold and your Chinese bamboo tree will grow. And when it does, it will grow in remarkable ways.

We’ve seen this happen so many times. Henry Ford had to water his Chinese Bamboo Tree through five business failures before he finally succeeded with the Ford Motor Company. Another great bamboo grower was the legendary jockey Eddie Arcaro. Arcaro lost his first 250 races as a jockey before going on to win 17 Triple Crown races and 554 stakes races for total purse earnings of more than $30 million.

Well, you have a Chinese Bamboo Tree inside of you just waiting to break through. So keep watering and believing and you too will be flying high before you know it.

Did this story of the Chinese Bamboo Tree resonate with you?  Do you feel more inspired?  What will you start doing differently as a result of this little, yet powerful story of the Chinese Bamboo Tree? Let me know in the comment section below!

Make life an adventure!