Real Life and Fake Life
(The Secret to Happiness That No One Wants to Admit)
(The Secret to Happiness That No One Wants to Admit)
We all are living life with prejudices, colored glasses on our eyes. When we prolong concentration on one thought, it gets our focus. Now our analyzing sense drowns slowly. If one thought or trait is not helping me to rise, I should get rid off it. Try new venue.
Suppose we have two options in life 1) We achieve everything we want, happiness not included. 2) We get happiness and also few things on and off.
Conceptually majority of us like option 2 but whole life we strive for option 1. Option 1 is not realistic at all; study, marriage, business.
Brain doesn't work on facts, it works on suppositions. New born babies get programmed by parents, elders (mostly negative programming).
Our brain forms associations between cues and response, our thoughts, our patterns of behavior get translated into repeated actions called habits. Habits emerge through associative learning. These thoughts and habits become our introduction. Our brain doesn't work on its own. It works when it is in some challenging situation.
We cannot notice our faults. We are afraid to mentioned each other's mistakes. We need proper training to counsel each other.
Traditionally our brains are wrongly programmed. When we communicate in positive way, it helps us in developing relationships.
There is no example that a professional corporate promote sad stories. Faith, hope, love, cherish; are the best traits in life.
I was very happy when I was in early age. Once a respected elder of my family advised me not to show happiness to everyone and then he continuously started watching me. As a result, I turned into a serious personality. You will find majority nine out of ten, sad and serious guys. Sad stories are more welcomed in society as compared to success stories. This is a myth that if you display happiness, you will face evil eye, bad eye and grief.
Grief is acknowledged easily, as compared to pleasure demonstration.
Our society is founded on sorrow; talking, listening, amplifying, acknowledging, accepting; sadness is unanimously declared as symbol of forgiveness for sins (without any reference). But if self inability and laziness is root cause of sadness, then nature of the issue is different.
As a result happy mood got suppressed socially. By the time our developed software collects only sad stories and becomes a software of sadness.
Thanks God, sabr, shukr; we use all these terms in wrong context. Sticking prolonged on situation is not sabr. Surrendering, submitting and handing over the situation to Almighty is sabr (Trust in Him).
Our social behaviors, responses and attitudes are killers of our happiness. We need training to foster, cater happiness.
Somehow, we developed crying, complaining software very strong and powerful (all-over). Got very weak software for happiness (seldom, rare).
Case studies help you a lot to express. Some people are PhD in making fight. Some cry on the event of great happiness. Waiter brought water but tissue was not properly wrapped. You have not invited my ABC far relative on your marriage. They are experts of magnifying non-issues.
Some people falsely portray, they are happy. Justification and fact are two different entities. Throwing fire is burning thrower first.
There are two types of happiness; 1) Deceptive (by hurting others, empty); nafs 2) Real (by helping, mentoring others, mindfulness); soul.
Above all is contentment.
Balanced life is rare; that you earn as per your needs. If a little more that's prosperity.
Conditions are limits for happiness; relationship, business, promotion (will never be fulfilled). If you are lucky and your conditions are fulfilled, you will become happy not for long. These conditions make a sequence, a chain; one after the other.
In a 10 day tour; we were looking for Indian Restaurant. When asked from a local, he told us the location but suggested to taste local food. Because this would be more interesting for your memories.
Case Study; a laborer used to pass by king's palace. Poor man used to greet the king. King never responded. Then he started response, little by little. One day laborer didn't came, the king was looking for him from his inside (realization).
Nafs is a big destroyer. Grave soil can only deal with this monster.
In one trip, I met a carpet seller. He had immense sale skills. But expensive bed can't provide deep and peaceful sleep.
Update your software. Results make you convince-able.
My work is in support of the research which had already been done.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8S1BRufZAmU
We cannot notice our faults. We are afraid to mentioned each other's mistakes. We need proper training to counsel each other.
Traditionally our brains are wrongly programmed. When we communicate in positive way, it helps us in developing relationships.
There is no example that a professional corporate promote sad stories. Faith, hope, love, cherish; are the best traits in life.
I was very happy when I was in early age. Once a respected elder of my family advised me not to show happiness to everyone and then he continuously started watching me. As a result, I turned into a serious personality. You will find majority nine out of ten, sad and serious guys. Sad stories are more welcomed in society as compared to success stories. This is a myth that if you display happiness, you will face evil eye, bad eye and grief.
Grief is acknowledged easily, as compared to pleasure demonstration.
Our society is founded on sorrow; talking, listening, amplifying, acknowledging, accepting; sadness is unanimously declared as symbol of forgiveness for sins (without any reference). But if self inability and laziness is root cause of sadness, then nature of the issue is different.
As a result happy mood got suppressed socially. By the time our developed software collects only sad stories and becomes a software of sadness.
Thanks God, sabr, shukr; we use all these terms in wrong context. Sticking prolonged on situation is not sabr. Surrendering, submitting and handing over the situation to Almighty is sabr (Trust in Him).
Our social behaviors, responses and attitudes are killers of our happiness. We need training to foster, cater happiness.
Somehow, we developed crying, complaining software very strong and powerful (all-over). Got very weak software for happiness (seldom, rare).
Case studies help you a lot to express. Some people are PhD in making fight. Some cry on the event of great happiness. Waiter brought water but tissue was not properly wrapped. You have not invited my ABC far relative on your marriage. They are experts of magnifying non-issues.
Some people falsely portray, they are happy. Justification and fact are two different entities. Throwing fire is burning thrower first.
There are two types of happiness; 1) Deceptive (by hurting others, empty); nafs 2) Real (by helping, mentoring others, mindfulness); soul.
Above all is contentment.
Balanced life is rare; that you earn as per your needs. If a little more that's prosperity.
Conditions are limits for happiness; relationship, business, promotion (will never be fulfilled). If you are lucky and your conditions are fulfilled, you will become happy not for long. These conditions make a sequence, a chain; one after the other.
In a 10 day tour; we were looking for Indian Restaurant. When asked from a local, he told us the location but suggested to taste local food. Because this would be more interesting for your memories.
Case Study; a laborer used to pass by king's palace. Poor man used to greet the king. King never responded. Then he started response, little by little. One day laborer didn't came, the king was looking for him from his inside (realization).
Nafs is a big destroyer. Grave soil can only deal with this monster.
In one trip, I met a carpet seller. He had immense sale skills. But expensive bed can't provide deep and peaceful sleep.
Update your software. Results make you convince-able.
My work is in support of the research which had already been done.
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